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Relationship Distress Check-In

8 questions3 minutesCustom guidance

Relationships can be a source of support and also a major source of stress. This check-in looks at conflict, trust, communication, emotional safety, and whether the relationship is giving both people room to be themselves.

Over the last month, how often have these experiences been true in an important relationship?

COMMUNICATION
Conversations turning into criticism, defensiveness, shutdown, or repeated arguments
TRUST
Finding it difficult to trust the other person or feel trusted by them
CONNECTION
Feeling lonely, dismissed, or emotionally distant within the relationship
REPAIR
Conflicts staying unresolved or returning without meaningful repair
BOUNDARIES
Feeling that your boundaries, privacy, values, or needs are regularly ignored
BALANCE
Feeling that responsibility, emotional labor, money, caregiving, or decision-making is persistently one-sided
SAFETY
Feeling afraid of the other person’s reaction when you disagree, set a boundary, or make an independent choice
WELLBEING
The relationship having a significant negative effect on your mood, sleep, confidence, or daily functioning

Your answers are used to calculate this result. Raw answers are not stored.

About this assessment

This tool is designed for self-reflection and support navigation. It is not a diagnosis. Results should be interpreted in context, especially when symptoms are severe, persistent, or affecting daily life.

Sources

About the evidence:

Project Semicolon reviews assessment wording, scoring logic, safety routing, and source status separately from the directory experience. Custom check-ins are clearly distinguished from validated instruments.

Privacy and your results

We store the completed assessment type, result band, score when applicable, limited secondary signals, and basic engagement events for aggregate metrics. Raw question responses are not stored.

Content disclaimer

This assessment is a screening and support-navigation tool, not a diagnosis or substitute for professional medical care.

Relationships FAQs

Does every unhealthy relationship need to end?

No single check-in can answer that. The key questions are whether there is safety, accountability, respect, willingness to change, and enough support for you to make choices freely.

When is couples counseling not a good first step?

When there is intimidation, coercive control, stalking, or violence, individual safety planning and specialized support may be more appropriate.

Can relationship stress affect mental health?

Yes. Ongoing conflict or disconnection can affect anxiety, depression, sleep, concentration, and self-esteem.

What if I am unsure whether a behavior is abusive?

You can speak confidentially with a relationship-abuse or domestic-violence service without committing to any particular action.