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Relationship Safety Check-In

8 questions3 minutesCustom guidance

This check-in is about safety, control, and freedom in a close relationship. It does not require you to label what is happening as abuse. You can use it simply to notice patterns and find support.

Thinking about your current or recent relationship, have any of these things happened?

CONTROL
Someone regularly controls where you go, who you see, what you wear, your phone, money, medications, or access to transportation
FEAR
You change what you say or do because you are afraid of their reaction
THREATS
They threaten you, themselves, children, pets, immigration status, housing, money, or reputation to control you
PHYSICAL HARM
They have pushed, hit, choked, restrained, injured, or physically intimidated you
SEXUAL PRESSURE
You have been pressured, coerced, or forced into sexual activity you did not want
STALKING
They monitor, follow, repeatedly contact, track, or show up in ways that make you feel unsafe
ESCALATION
The controlling, threatening, or violent behavior has been getting worse or more frequent
RIGHT NOW
You are worried that you or someone else could be seriously harmed soon

Your answers are used to calculate this result. Raw answers are not stored.

About this assessment

This tool is designed for self-reflection and support navigation. It is not a diagnosis. Results should be interpreted in context, especially when symptoms are severe, persistent, or affecting daily life.

Sources

About the evidence: Project Semicolon original relationship-safety routing check-in. It is not a diagnostic instrument and should not replace individualized safety assessment.

Project Semicolon reviews assessment wording, scoring logic, safety routing, and source status separately from the directory experience. Custom check-ins are clearly distinguished from validated instruments.

Privacy and your results

We store the completed assessment type, result band, score when applicable, limited secondary signals, and basic engagement events for aggregate metrics. Raw question responses are not stored.

Content disclaimer

This assessment is a screening and support-navigation tool, not a diagnosis or substitute for professional medical care.

Abuse & domestic violence FAQs

Do I have to be physically hurt for a relationship to be abusive?

No. Coercive control, threats, stalking, sexual coercion, financial abuse, and intimidation can all be serious forms of abuse.

Can I contact a hotline if I am not ready to leave?

Yes. Support services can help you think through options without requiring you to end the relationship.

What if someone monitors my phone or browser?

Use a safer device when possible and consider how call logs, browser history, shared accounts, or location sharing could be monitored.

Is couples counseling recommended when there is abuse?

When one partner is afraid or controlled, couples counseling can create additional risk. Specialized abuse support is usually a safer first step.